Nashville. Dreams Come True. Day One.


It was “my” place. 

My destination vacation dream. 

Then, in 2019, when my husband was retiring in 2020 and he warned me, “DO NOT PLAN ANY PARTIES FOR HIM.” I promised I would NOT PLAN ANY PARTIES FOR HIM. 

He had told me once something like that, I didn’t listen, and boy was he mad. 

But. I mean. Retiring. A cop? A K9 cop? 

I called one of his friends, my heart thudding like the midnight train that flies by our town every night, and said, “Ok, maybe we just surprise him with a few people at MaGerks. Just a few.”

Five minutes later I called back; “Forget it. No one. He’ll be mad. Maybe not. But Dude, I will be nervous from now until April 4th of next year. It’s not worth the anxiety of wondering if he’ll be mad or not!”

He always stressed to me: “If I die in the line of duty, I don’t want a big deal made of it!” He didn’t like Commendations, trophies, etc. He’s just the kind of guy; he does a good job, he knows it, the people that count know it, and that’s all that matters. 


Imagine my surprise. 

When he texts me at work, that “GUESS WHAT? A few of the guys are taking me to Nashville for my retirement.” 

Nashville huh? 

The only reason John even knew of Luke Combs or Morgan Wallen was because I played them!

So, I did the only thing I could do…I bought a ticket to go by myself (flights were super cheap on SouthWest – 49 bucks!). If you can’t join them, go later and enjoy! I really only cared about listening to LIVE COUNTRY MUSIC. Not about getting drunk and sloppy (I’ve had about 30 years of practice at that). 

Then Covid happened. 


Being stuck together for over a year, John learned much more about Country music than he ever wanted to. Now we had Hardy and Ern in the rotation, and even some Walker Hayes (only if he was feeling really generous!) Our local bars, the kind with juke boxes, also really got to know Morgan, Hardy, and Ern. I’m sure Cross Roads and Skyline couldn’t have pushed us out the door fast enough to get us to Nashville!

A few weeks into 2022, prior to Inflation and Heart Attack Gas Prices, Southwest Airlines was having a 59 sale to Nashville. Nonstop. The departure times were perfect. I had a credit I needed to use by the end of the year, and asked John if he’d want to go. He said sure. 

We were scheduled to leave on April 5th, Tuesday. 

That weekend, call it weather, systems glitches, or what you will, but Southwest cancelled almost half a thousand flights. (They weren’t the only airline to do so.)

Maybe Nashville was just not in my cards. And in case they weren’t in my cards, we eyed a get out of the house since we have a wonderful dog sitter scheduled, to Jim Thorpe. Been there a thousand times, but what’s ONE MORE? 

But by Monday, Southwest seemed to get it’s propellers spinning, and by Tuesday morning at 7:10 am, we were IN NASHVILLE!

I was so excited to see EVERYTHING COUNTY just as soon as we stepped off the airplane and into airport. There was a SINGER singing in a little cafe!

It was raining, but the wonderful Airbnb we were staying in said we could check in as soon as we landed (AMAZING!!!! I know some Airbnb’s dislike the “early” request, and we were pushing it with an 8am arrival, but…WOW!! (Here’s the wonderful link for the beautiful Jill and Buds Nashville Airbnb ). 

Oh, on top of it all, we took our first Uber ride ever. Yes, we’ve been living in the dark ages.

After we dropped off our stuff, we headed to Snooze East Nashville . Love the decor. Very vintage! I started the day off with a Bloody Mary and some peppered/maple bacon. Our server had just moved from California (she’s be the second transplant from CA we’d meet) and was LOVING Nashville. 

So far, so good. And we’re just getting started! Stay tuned for Part Two: We discover we are standing next to Dustin Lynch but don’t want to be making it obviously that we are standing next to DUSTIN LYNCH. 


Americas Shift to Decay of the Individual

1951:The Claims of Sociology by Albert Hoyt Hobbs

I’d discovered Dr. Albert Hobbs when I was searching for Sociologists/Authors who were Conservative or Independent.
Jonathan Haidt , author of The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion, published in 2012, claims to have discovered that Conservatives are under-represented in the field of Behavioral Sciences and that in the last 50 years, Leftists have, not only ‘taken over’ behavioral sciences, they have created a hostile environment for those who think logically and believe in self-determination and individual enterprise.
I realized most behavioral books I’d ever read during my lifetime were written by authors who were staunchly Leftists. And I’d been noticing an ever increasing bias favoring dependency, decay of values and spirit, and painting people who favored Individualism and civil debate as people to be feared and mocked.
I consider myself to be Independent, really. I’m open minded, and yet there are some traditions I value and believe are important if we are to move forward as a free, happy, society.
My search for a Conservative Sociologist led to very very few people.
But, finally, it did lead to finding Albert Hoyt Hobbs!
Hobbs was a professor emeritus of sociology at the University of Pennsylvania. He was a conservative surrounded by Leftists, and he noticed that there was a leftist bias creeping into text books.
This was in the 1937. 1937!
He taught for 43 years, from 1937 until 1980, though he had a three year break when he joined the Navy and fought in World War I.
The ironic thing, Hobbs had discovered the bias very very long ago and wrote about it from 1951 until 1976. He was the first to raise the alarm that children were being manipulated and influenced by ideas that socialism is good, that the collective is more important than the individual, and that man is not capable of making his own choices. Those book were light on fact and heavy on opinion.
I first discovered Man is Moral Choice, which was the last book he wrote (published in in 1979) Then I read The Vision and the Constant Star (published in 1956) and The Claims of Sociology: A Critique Of Textbooks (published in 1951).
His books expose the discrimination and devaluation of strong character values and how the status strivers in behavioral sciences are often really doing nothing but creating disease(s) for only which they have the cure.
Other than my family and my dogs, the only other thing I’d bother to save in a fire would be my books by Hobbs. They are invaluable in insight and knowledge – and prove that Jonathan Haidt’s claim is BS – conservatives have never been represented in the behavioral sciences, and his “shocking new theory” is actually 64 years old.

The Claims of Sociology: A Critique Of Textbooks
This book noted the increasing use of “sociological significance” that was appearing in movies, novels, etc. Remember, this was in 1951.
School sociology textbooks were being used to influence student’s personal behavior and subtle political ideas were being planted.
Hobbs writes that sociological emphasis used by authors of the text books maintained that they were objective, but do not include theories which conflict with their interpretation’s. They only accept evidence that supports their views and beliefs.
The textbooks accept unverified data to support cultural conditioning and claim that hereditary is unimportant and that man can be and should be molded to conform and submit to a collective order.
Hobbs points out that from 1926 to 1930 – textbooks were cohesive. The depression of the 1930’s marked a change – the depression and financial fear gave politicians their “fight” slogan, and indeed, Franklin Roosevelt would go onto win the presidency in 1933, promising relief for all in the form of government relief. By this time, “social engineers” (that I’d learned about when reading about Propaganda and from the book about Ed Bernays, the Father of American Propaganda) were firmly implanted in colleges, their theories based on the ideals of belief that religion was obsolete, professors and teachers are more valuable than parents, and that academia can perfect man and politicians can and should control society.
Textbooks began to reflect these beliefs, promoting the ideas that a competitive economic system causes mental illness and that government regulation of business, schools, etc, will remedy all social problems.
Hobbs discovered that the authors of the textbooks were trying to convince readers that sociology is science using vague hypothesis as scientific law, and often confused facts with generalizations. They called projections, “predictions” and instead of using laboratory data, substituted collection of opinion/statistical research. Laboratory data is not biased – an atom won’t change its reaction, people, however, are subject to change at a moment’s notice.
In 1951, Hobbs discovered that 64% of textbooks had become filled with leftist bias when compared with text books from 1926.
This book examines topics like personality formation, social controls, war, social change, economics, and a host of other subjects that Sociology teaches – and shows how bias and popular political beliefs drift in.
This book is one of the first (and actually, only that I know of) that patiently and painstakingly exposes how America slowly went from a culture that valued personal freedom, personal responsibility, common sense, to a culture that stopped believing in themselves and started becoming dependent on the government.


Distracting You To Death

Contrary to popular belief, everything doesn’t happen for a reason, but you have the power to find a positive purpose in everything that happens.

In every mess – there is a message.

“If you know what the tricks are, you can play your cards right.”

Our world today is filled with comforts and conveniences, a world of constant celebrations, vast improvements, and immense freedom.
Yet, despite all those positive things, people are unhappier more than ever. People are popping pharmaceutical pills, holistic pills, getting high, drinking, Netflix binging, reading countless books, over-exercising, and of course, posting pictures of their food to social media (I’ve done all these things at one time or another) to escape their pain, boredom, or frustration.
We are losing our optimistic confidence, our character, our courage, our individuality, our independence, our voice because we are being dumbed down, fattened up, and overly distracted.
Most of us are constantly looking outside of ourselves for answers – falling for every self-help book, every scientific study, every new disease, every latest gadget promising an easier life, a better life, better sex, better house, better kids, better body – and promising shortcuts to arrive at those things faster.

Our world is also filled with people who claim they are experts, organizations and corporations, that, on the surface, seem compassionate, but peel back a layer and you’ll discover they have become obsessed with superiority, rather than significance and making a real difference.

These people and groups are hijacking our happiness by promising they will either rescue us from the difficulties of life, help us escape our problems, give us more status, or better yet, superiority.
America was created on the foundations of independence and significance; to escape a life of dependency and “superior” rule.

Genuine happiness is found by striving to be significant and significance comes from honorable consistent character; courage to face life instead of escape it; overcoming obstacles with a creative optimistic attitude, accepting nature’s defeats with dignity, and constantly striving for individual improvement and positive purpose.

Our freedom and independence is quietly disappearing and we’ve become too distracted, conditioned, cowardly, and confused, to notice.

When we start losing the very things that make us significant, we give up our power. When we give up our power, we give up our personal purpose, our personal calling, our dreams. And when our dreams die, our optimism is gone and happiness belongs to those we’ve handed our power to.

Here’s the awesome thing: at any point, you can re-claim your happiness. You can start over any day, any moment. But here’s the catch – you have to consistently work at it, practice it, be aware, be courageous. This will explain what no other self-help, motivational book has; it will explain how we arrived at a place in time when we trust everyone but ourselves; it will expose the tools, tricks, and people that undermine your search for meaning and success, and it will explain how we can reclaim our happiness, restore our character, and return to our search for significance.